Episode 100: It's 2022 and I'm Trying On Wedding Dresses
It's 2022 and I'm Trying On Wedding Dresses
This week Sam is celebrating the 100th episode of the podcast & a new year! In this episode Sam chats all about how she’s been finding balance and workflow while travelling in 2022 and how she ripped off the band-aid and started her wedding planning process.
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Podcast Script
[00:00:00] Monetize your passion for wellbeing like a job you love every single day. Find a happy life from a healthy lifestyle. What's up guys. This is Spin, Skin and Other Addictions, a podcast by me, Samantha E Cutler of The Fit Fatale. Each week I'm going to take you deeper into the world of wellness with entrepreneurs who are building brands designed to better your life.
[00:00:27] So you'll be hearing from fitness gurus, medical specialists, and influencers in the world of fitness, health, beauty, and nutrition. I hope you guys love it. Let's get down.
Sam: I felt, okay, I'm ready to think about what we're going to do for the wedding. And then I realized I have literally no idea where to start. It felt like the first day when you decide like, oh, I'm going to start a business. And then you realized, okay, what do I need to do?
[00:00:53] Do I just like, go get a business name? Do I register? I don't know. I compare everything to business.
[00:00:58] [00:01:00] Hello, and welcome to our first podcast of 2022. I can't believe I'm even saying that I'm a little behind in podcasting. I'm not going to lie. We've had some amazing guests already for 2022 that we haven't had out yet. Um, we have some episodes ready for you, but I mentioned last year that I was going to be doing a lot more solo episodes.
[00:01:26] Quick little snippets on checking in how we're feeling, some thoughts that I'm having at the moment and some best practices for feeling good. And also just like what the hell is going on, you know, just checking in on. What's happening in the life of Sam and some little thoughts in the moment. So our first episode of 2022 is going to kick us off with that, but I can't start 2022 without just giving a shout out to 2021.
[00:01:55] Of course it was another really tough year, but being transparent, it [00:02:00] was a crazy crazy year and so many incredible, magical things happen for me, like getting engaged with Trevor, um, the progress of both of our businesses really just like evolving as individuals and also watching society evolve.
[00:02:19] 2020 was so difficult on so many of us and I feel like we really saw the individuals that grew in 2021 and continue to show up and we saw that in our relationships, our friends, um, our social experiences, the content we consume. So I just want to reference that before we head straight into the new year, because I feel like 2021 was such a monumentous year for so many of us.
[00:02:45] And I still want to do a podcast with Trev about our engagement. We've gotten so many questions. We never really had the time to sit down and answer and also about our engagement party, um, you know, so many details around it, what we're thinking for the wedding. So if you guys are [00:03:00] down, send me a note, share a comment and let me know what you're thinking and what you want to know about our wedding planning and everything that's coming up, because I definitely want to keep you in the loop.
[00:03:11] And like also just share the struggles of it, because I feel like we got engaged. I was so excited about it. Um, I didn't even want to think about the wedding at first. And like I had wedding planners and different people messaging me and my response kept being like, Hmm, check in later. We're not there yet.
[00:03:27] We don't know what we're doing. And then, you know, as that sort of settled, I felt, okay, I'm ready to think about what we're going to do for the wedding. And then I realized I have literally no idea where to start. It felt like the first day when you decide like, oh, I'm going to start a business. And then you realized, okay, what do I need to do?
[00:03:45] Do I just like, go get a business name? Do I register? I don't know. I compare everything to business to be transparent. And then I compare everything in business to relationships. So it's just a back and forth game with me. I honestly felt like I had no idea where to go. [00:04:00] Um, and I still feel that way and I'm sort of figuring it out, uh, as we go on.
[00:04:05] And I think I used like the engagement party sort of as my focus and crutch to, to focus on at first and then, you know, got past the holidays and Christmas and all that stuff. And now into the new year, have to actually think about what we're going to do for the wedding when it's going to be and my best friend dragged me to wedding dress try on's to kind of rip off the bandaid.
[00:04:26] Cause I kept saying no, no, no, I don't want to go. And she dragged me because she realized that if I do end up wanting to get married this next summer coming up in 2022, that I need to figure it out. Um, so we kind of went and just like did some try on's I had a little bit of anxiety at first, if you've ever been to wedding fittings or try on's let's say try on's at first because you go through so many dresses. And I think the first thing that was so difficult, by the way, this podcast, wasn't supposed to be about our engagement. And I want to do one with Trev, but we're going there [00:05:00] anyway. So bear with me the thing that I found the hardest about going for the first dress try on or checking at the very first place that you go was that you literally have no idea what you want to wear. And I think you have this idea and you've, I've always had this idea until I put on dresses that looked like what I was thinking in my head for years and realized maybe this isn't actually what I want, which is a really weird experience because you have this idea until you put it on, you see yourself.
[00:05:32] And you feel your energy and you realize maybe that's a little bit different. So that was really eye-opening, but it was just exhausting because you have to try every style. You have to try straight, um, you know, mermaid, beaded, lace,princess,puffy, sleeves, like strapless, just literally everything. And of course they advise you to do that as well to see what you feel comfortable in materials, scratchy.
[00:05:57] Like, do you want a corset? My [00:06:00] gosh, if there's any guys listening to this, they're probably turning it off right now. It's exhausting just hearing this. Um, and if you're a bride or soon to be bride. You totally know what I'm talking about, and if you're not, then you know, if you're in your path is to get married or part of your goals or dreams in life, you will go through this process and trust me, it is a little crazy and overwhelming, and you just try to find your ways to ground yourself.
[00:06:27] So my best friend took me and did that like early on when we got engaged and, um, I guess, early in the fall, And it was really overwhelming. I was boiling and sweating and there was so much to try on and I hadn't eaten anything because we were there. You're literally there for like four hours.
[00:06:46] And I remember after feeling like I couldn't speak because you're so mentally stimulated for that long. And you're talking to the person who's assisting you, you're speaking with whoever you brought in this case, my best friend, you know, you're analyzing. [00:07:00] You're not just buying a shirt here, guys, you know, so it was a lot, um, anyway, that was sort of my first experience ripping off the band-aid, but now I've gotten an idea of what I want for dresses.
[00:07:13] Still need to go obviously to a lot more places, check it out. I've done two different shopping excursions, but I think what's most scary for me is thinking about like, when we're getting married and planning it and I don't even know if that'll be in 2022. We haven't figured it out yet, so that's like a big question, mark.
[00:07:31] So I'd love to say we're starting this year and it's the year I get married, but it might not be in probably going to be 2023 at this point. We're trying to decide so many different things and like location. Um, I think we both sorta know the vibe, but definitely like how that'll unfold and come to life is so unique for everyone.
[00:07:54] So we're just trying to get our grasp on that and what that will look like for us, by the [00:08:00] way, Moka snoring as per usual, in most of my podcasts. But if you hear her, she's doing her thing sitting on my lap. So I feel like that's top of mind as I start 2022, because I'm wondering, will this be the year that I get married?
[00:08:13] And even if it's not, it's definitely going to be consumed by a lot of wedding thoughts. Um, I would say content, but I don't even know if we'll get there. It's going to be a lot of more wedding thoughts and like the lead up. I know there's so many planning books and I've had so many of my best friends and family go through the process.
[00:08:33] I do wish there was something that was straightforward that said like, the first thing you need to do is get a planner. Or the first thing you need to do is get, you know, ask your bridesmaids because they'll be there to help you. And I haven't even asked my bridesmaids yet and we had our like engagement party and usually, I guess, bridesmaids help with that, but obviously my best friends were there and helping with so much of it.
[00:08:57] So I think I just want to figure out the most [00:09:00] perfect way to ask them if anyone listening has really cute ways to ask bridesmaids, please let me know. I'm trying to think of what is something unique and special sentimental I've been through some of their weddings. Some of them haven't gotten married yet.
[00:09:16] And I feel like I just really wanted to show how much I love and appreciate them and how much they mean to me. So I'm trying to think of what that will look like and how to do it. So I'm definitely open to all suggestions. Aside from that, we kicked off the new year and we were in Florida. Um, we were down there already and then of course, things got locked down back in Canada.
[00:09:38] So we stayed for much longer than we were anticipating. We were gone for about a month, which was incredible. I was so lucky to be out the snow, in the sunshine and just start the year off. But I feel like also because of that, I'm so used to being home for new years or if you're not home for new years, you're home for like the first full week of the [00:10:00] year.
[00:10:00] And we weren't for the first, like two or three. So it was definitely a weird transition into the new year and trying to build like new habits and routines, but you're really not in your own space. So I actually felt like a grew a lot in that time and I know that sounds bizarre, but I felt that I really had to tap into what are the things that I want, what are my priorities to feel good, but I'm also still taking advantage of the fact that I'm away.
[00:10:30] We were with a lot of friends and family that were down there as well. And so I think that also changed how things unfolded. We were out for dinner. Um, you know, we were having wine by the pool, that kind of thing. And so I was building habits that I wanted for the new year, but also wasn't sacrificing anything like wasn't, you know, saying, okay, it's a new year.
[00:10:53] I'm working on every single day. I'm not drinking. It's dry January. Which by the way, I never do, because I have friends that are born in [00:11:00] January. We always have so many different things going on. Um, I'm also not really an all or nothing type of person. So I don't love to say, okay, for one month, I'm going to cut out something completely.
[00:11:10] But of course kind of reel it back in after the holidays. I don't know. I feel like everybody does. So, yeah, we didn't really get that like opportunity, but I actually felt like it pushed me and it allowed me to grow in different ways. And I got really like unfamiliar with the way I wanted to create content, which was fun because it opened up a raw experience for me.
[00:11:35] And so of course, I, you know, was running the business side of my businesses and trying to just get everything organized as we got into the new year. But also if you're a creator and you're listening, building content for a new year is so fascinating. Like you just crack open raw. And I think there's a lot of structure around most other times of the year.[00:12:00]
[00:12:00] But when it's a new year, a lot of people focus on like new year, health ,goals, et cetera. And that's the first couple of weeks, but at the end of the day, you're reinventing how you provide and how you show up with content on social media. Every single year, every single season, I actually believe. Um, and what's really interesting is that like Christmas is such a distinct time, you know, you know, you're showing up with gift ideas, holiday content, you know, table settings, whatever your niche is, if it's fitness, even like, how do you stay active while it's the winter?
[00:12:37] You know, there's a lot of different sort of clear cut content for different sections, summer- everything gets really fun and fresh, fall is very, you know, that shift to coziness, eating differently, fashion shifts but I find in the new year, it's like this sort of raw time from January to probably like April in Canada, until it starts [00:13:00] getting warmer where you have this opportunity to just actually not be driven by the seasons and by what's going on and just choose, like, what are you showing up as, and how are you showing up? And what is the content you're providing? What is the value you're providing? And so I spent a lot of time thinking about that, but also I've spent a lot of time, just kind of experimenting with things.
[00:13:25] And if you follow me on social on Instagram and TikTok, you've probably seen that a little bit. I don't know if you've noticed, but over the past few weeks, since the new year, just trying to kind of experiment and figure out if I'm truly living as me and showing up on social media. Totally transparently.
[00:13:44] Just really giving whatever I want to the platform, which is what we should be doing. What does that look like? And I think I have this vision of what I want to see, and then I have this other [00:14:00] piece of me. That's like, well, this is the simplest thing and this will create the most content for people. And it's just easy, like go this route because you can focus on building your tech company and the other things when you do this, and then there's somewhere in between where you exist as who you are and you show up with the best possible content, but it also becomes easy. And if any other entrepreneurs are listening, they probably know what I'm talking about when I referenced this sweet spot, because there's easy coasting and it works right. Like that still works. I can just post those photos and it works and it's easy.
[00:14:38] And then there's the tough part. That's like, so, and I don't just mean working hard. I mean, Like almost just physically and mentally exhausting. And then there's somewhere in between that is like, it's kind of the same as dieting, you know, there's extremes on each side and then you just want to find yourself in the [00:15:00] middle where you can exist truly as you where you're in your flow.
[00:15:03] I mean, that's the best word to describe it as really in your flow, in your element aligned full of purpose, but also it's easy. Like it's not supposed to be so hard. You're supposed to work hard, but the process I really do believe is not supposed to be hard. It's suppose to feel aligned. And when I say process, that means whether that's building content or working towards your business or building a relationship like there's this spot that you want to get to where you always sort of, you know, float back and forth.
[00:15:40] It's it's this like equilibrium of flow. And I do feel like I'm getting closer to that. I've been doing this for seven years, which is so crazy, but I think I'm ever evolving and creators are ever evolving into different stages of their life. And so, and entrepreneurs are as well. [00:16:00] And so no matter once you kind of reach that point, It's torn apart because something completely changes in your life.
[00:16:06] You move somewhere different, you know, your life changes. You're in a new relationship. You have a baby, whatever those things are, and then you have to find your new normal, your new flow, your new equilibrium. So I feel like for where I'm at right now. Where Trevor and I are at, in our relationship in our business and our home life.
[00:16:25] I feel like I'm starting to get that flow, but there's been so many moments of growth, personal and, um, you know, together that have just continuously thrown. These moments of, I guess propelling our individual selves and that's made it harder to kind of like hunker down and I feel like I'm getting to a point and I'm really excited for 2022.
[00:16:50] And I'd love to hear from you guys, if you feel the same, shoot me a message. But I have spoken with some of my friends and some people on social media who are feeling the same [00:17:00] way, because as I referenced at the beginning of this, 2020 ripped our lives apart, 2021 gave us all moments to exercise the personal growth that we went through and 2022, hopefully.
[00:17:16] And I feel it, I feel it. I don't even want to say hopefully it will bring us back to a state of balance no matter what that means. Um, and I'm really excited for that even like when I get dressed recently, I feel like I just know what I want to wear. You know, that feeling where you're like, this is my vibe right now.
[00:17:34] Like, I am so confident in what I need to put on, like who I am, what feels really like me when it, you know, I put that look together, how I want to style things. And I referenced back to fashion so much because to me, that's how we express where we are inside. And when I'm feeling uncomfortable inside, I always have feel like my outfit and what I'm [00:18:00] portraying and the exterior version feels uncomfortable as well and feels like off balance. So I'm excited for 2022, I think there's so much to discuss, and again, I'm going to come at you with a few of these shorter podcasts. Hopefully this brought some food for thought.
[00:18:17] Definitely need to dive in more to the wedding conversation around here. Um, but I'm excited for this new year and I'm excited to just frigging get in our flow. We need it. We need it fam. Okay. That's it for now. We have some amazing guests coming up in the next few weeks. I can't wait to share them with you so many inspiring entrepreneurs.
[00:18:38] And of course I will be here showing up, talking with you all. I love to hear from you. If you love the show, please rate us, leave a comment, share some love on social media. We're always here. And of course I'm always available @thefitfatale. Shoot me a DM and I love to chat. Lots of love babes.